TheBatdorTrogman
Swan
He's smiling because the post immediately to the right is awesome.
Posts: 48
|
Post by TheBatdorTrogman on Jan 11, 2012 22:53:53 GMT -6
I don't want to rant, so I'll just write something quick.
I'm in love. No bull: this is legitimate, reciprocated, honest-to-whatever-higher-power-you-may-or-may-not-believe-in true love. But circumstances are such that I can't be with this person.
This post isn't me telling my story, though. It's me asking you guys: have you ever been in a situation like this one? And how did you cope? If not... got any advice anyway?
|
|
|
Post by lih on Jan 12, 2012 1:16:28 GMT -6
i cut out my eyeballs and the demons stole my soles
|
|
|
Post by phazonelite on Jan 15, 2012 1:10:15 GMT -6
I jacked off now! NOW!!
|
|
|
Post by AbsoluteZero255 on Jan 15, 2012 1:15:54 GMT -6
I looked at a picture of Jake the Dog and I felt that I wasn't to be with anyone else.
I feel you man, I feel you.
|
|
|
Post by eataninja on Jan 15, 2012 8:06:46 GMT -6
Love is cruel, man.
|
|
|
Post by PhantomTaco on Jan 15, 2012 13:30:38 GMT -6
Having been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years but not been able to see her for extended amounts of time due to her going to a college 12 hours away, I can say that I have never been in a situation like yours
|
|
bally
Yoshi
Sitting on a swing with my Katamari ♥
Posts: 1,305
|
Post by bally on Jan 15, 2012 18:27:41 GMT -6
give her a dakimakura of yourself for her birthday
this enhances the relationship between any couple by at least 30%!
|
|
|
Post by Mr. Sub on Jan 16, 2012 13:47:12 GMT -6
Unfortunately there's not much one can do, but to attempt to deal with it in a sensible manner. At the end of the day, there's no problem with loving someone with whom, for one reason or another, you cannot be. Be it a romantic feeling or a sexual feeling, if it's one that you can enjoy and not just be hurt by, one doesn't have an obligation to try and rid oneself of the feeling and never think of that person ever again- we can enjoy our desires as much as we wish. Only if those desires always come with a strong feeling of pain from the idea that they cannot be fulfilled, and if that idea really is true, not just speculation, should it be suggested that the best attitude is to remove this person from ones life, remembering that they can only cause you pain and, for whatever reason, there is no way that you could be with them, and so keeping them a prominent thought and desire is futile and can only bring more suffering. Sorry for not trolling 'n' all
|
|
TheBatdorTrogman
Swan
He's smiling because the post immediately to the right is awesome.
Posts: 48
|
Post by TheBatdorTrogman on Jan 16, 2012 16:16:53 GMT -6
Thanks, all you non-trolls, for your sympathy and insight.
Eataninja: Never heard that song before. But yeah, love IS cruel, isn't it?
Mr. Sub: This person and I are still going to be friends, because we're practically family at this point. So I really should try to make the best of this. After all, I'm not really "losing" anyone, am I? (Not that I "had" them in the first place...)
So, life goes on, I guess.
|
|
|
Post by Pokésonic on Jan 16, 2012 16:29:44 GMT -6
Funnily enough, Batdor, I'm in a somewhat similar situation. Met a girl online (can confirm she's actually a girl), somehow fell for her, found out she fell for me, but there's a whole damn ocean between us. So I guess I kinda know how you feel there.
|
|
|
Post by eataninja on Jan 16, 2012 19:57:13 GMT -6
When did this thread become serious? DERAIL DERAIL DERAIL
|
|
|
Post by Youne on Jan 16, 2012 20:34:31 GMT -6
I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, and I have not yet been in such a circumstance. Yet, in terms of advice or whatever, I feel that it would be best to just try to make the best of the circumstance. By no means does that mean jump head over heels into the heart of the relationship or what have you, but really as cliche as it sounds is to somewhat go with the flow. This is only one chapter in your life, there hopefully will be many more, with many more opportunities to find "the one" In response to Poke's post, I personally feel that long-distance relationships are insanely difficult and I could not do one myself for the sake of my significant other. I do know of many people who have successfully been in and are still in long distance relationships and are doing quite well. If you can do it, then all props to ya!
|
|
bally
Yoshi
Sitting on a swing with my Katamari ♥
Posts: 1,305
|
Post by bally on Jan 16, 2012 20:37:22 GMT -6
i wasn't trolling
|
|
|
Post by lih on Jan 16, 2012 20:40:10 GMT -6
what's this trolling thing? last time i was 'in love' i was so driven to despair that i truly cut out my eyeballs and the demons stole my soles it was not a pleasant experience
|
|
|
Post by shinyjiggly on Jan 17, 2012 1:31:37 GMT -6
@lih: cool story bro. @op: No, I haven't been in that sort of situation before. I've had very small crushes that have quickly faded away, but I have never felt true love before. (not that I want to, relationship shenanigans in this point in my life would be detrimental to my studies and my hobbies.) So I've never been in your position before.
The best sort of advice that I can give you is to try and think about the things that you have to deal with usually with a straight face and not let your feelings wrap you up in a fiasco of some sort. Just try to go about your business normally and wait for your judgement to resurface.
TL;DR: I am not an expert, my advice has no guarantee on it. Please do not sue me for horrible relationship advice. You can flame and troll me if you wish, just no suing.
|
|
|
Post by Mr. Sub on Jan 17, 2012 11:46:25 GMT -6
This is exactly the right way to see it- making the best of the fact that you are still spending time with this person with whom you feel in love, and are as close to them as you really can be, even if you would rather be closer.
|
|